Is it true, that it is better for you to have loved and lost than never to love at all? If this is true, should you prepare yourself emotionally for disappointments and failed relationships? How does one prepare him or herself for an unrequited love affair or avoid entering a relationship with someone that is untrustworthy? Is it possible for you to avoid a disastrous relationship or broken heart experience?
How do you assess whether someone is right or wrong for you emotionally, spiritually, and physically? And how can your broken heart be mended so you can move on with your life?
As a practical person, I realize that there is no crystal ball for predictions, or magical wanes to wave, and I am not offering any magical fixes. However, if you are experiencing the pain of a severed relationship and desire to move on with your life. There is hope. You can begin by asking yourself the following practical questions as an aid to mending your broken heart and begin a new loving relationship.
1. Do you know yourself well enough to determine whether you are compatible with your potential soulmate?
The word compatible refers to living harmoniously in an agreeable relationship. It also means being able to exist in a congenial environment with one another with shared values, or the ability to respect differences. In order to rank your compatibility with others,you must first learn to recognize who you are, and how to assess your real needs and goals.You cannot effectively assess the strengths and weakness in others if you are unable to define your own. Trust, honesty, and the ability to communicate must become your priority and measurement in order for you to effectively assess whether a person is compatible.
2. Can you control the way you think?
Have you experienced a troubled relationship that left you with a broken heart, caused you to dislike yourself, and not trust others? We all make mistakes, so you need to learn how to forgive yourself, love yourself, and change your way of thinking. Your breakthrough will come only when you are able to control the way you think and begin to love yourself. By learning how to control the way you think, you can begin the process of learning how to love yourself. Once you have learned to love yourself, practice being kind, considerate and cooperative with others as a step toward learning how to objectively trust others with your feelings, and ultimately with your love.
3. Do you know the healing powers of forgiveness?
As difficult as it maybe to forgive the person that hurt you, a broken heart can find healing peace and uplifting spirit through the ability to forgive. Forgiveness allows you to free your mind of the bitterness, resentments, and anger so you can move on with your life in a positive direction. The process of forgiving has a cleansing effect and has been known to help reduce mental, emotional, psychological, and physical stress.
4. Are you impatient with yourself?
Be patient with yourself and take an active part in your healing process. By not taking an active role in resolving your problems, you are, in fact, prolonging the problem and pain. Remember, no matter what type of problem or pain you are experiencing, it is only temporary. Everyone has experienced some type of emotional conflict in his or her life. Take time to reach out for help, attend a support group, you will be surprise to discover how your experience can help others.
5. Do you prefer to be alone during troubling times?
While it is often considered a good idea to give yourself breathing room, space or grieving time, it is not practical to develop a habit of isolating yourself from supportive friends and family members. Being alone only heightens your awareness of your problems. Enjoying the company of others can be a source of healing and restoration.
6. Do you romanticize past relationships?
Stop romanticizing past relationships, no matter how enjoyable or regretful it was. You must recognize your past relationship for what it was and move on with your life. Focus your mind and attention on positive thoughts,activities, and people while expecting positive results.
7. Are you afraid to develop new relationships?
Discovering new and positive relationships can contribute to your personal growth and future happiness. You should feel encouraged to venture out into new surroundings. Develop new social networks that will lead to exciting friendships outside of the ones you shared with your past lover or spouse. Join clubs and organizations that will allow you to discover your hidden talents. A different environment will equip you with new experiences and opportunities for meeting someone more compatible.
Tags: broken heart, forgiveness, love
love what you had to say about forgiveness!!!!! I agree keep writing and I’ll keep reading and learning……..
Thanks for sharing the 411 with these men out here. They need to learn about love, real love, and know their behavior have consequences. Like the brother said, “Keep writing and I’ll keep reading and learning.” Thanks.
From another brother. Well said. Keep up the good work.
Say man, its good to see a brother write about things most guys think about, but are afraid to discuss. Keep writing and I’ll keep reading and learning. Thank you!